29 May 2012

like a needle through the heart

too many things are going on in my mind.. mind and soul is hurting.. why? i am not sure myself.. my feelings are trying to tell me something.. but i don't know what.. either that or i'm in denial.. my heart is telling me something that i cannot withstand.

i need to do something.. need to change something... need to start something.. but which one? this or that might have a different impact. and i don't want the worst impact to my life. i have aysha to think about.

Dear Allah, to you i seek solitude. please give me the strength to endure this phase. i had these feelings before and now again i have to deal with it. i'm sure the feelings will past.. fades away..



new blog

hey guys,

i just want to announce that i have created another blog here. after i keep thinking about it i feel the need to have another blog for something more relaxing. where i can meet more blogger friends.. i have initially created this blog to tell a story regarding my marriage life, about parenting and other important stuff that i like to share with all.. 

at the same time, i also want to write about lighter topics like making movie reviews, book reviews, blog review, tutorials, learns about how to fully utilise my blog.. what i have learnt in this blogging world. so all the segments i joined will be from kisahkc. since i have organized 1 segment here.

so, please come visit me at kisahkc too..

27 May 2012

6 easy ways to make your child feels loved | iluvislam.com

6 Cara Mudah Membuat Anak Rasa Disayangi | iluvislam.com discover the beauty of islam

from the link above, i would like to share with everyone these easy steps. i really hope i can practice it at home.

1. say i love u especially when she is sad
 
actually i always do this at night when aysha is drinking her milk to sleep. and usually after she finishes her milk then she'll kiss me goodnight.. awwww. so sweet. love her to bits..

also when she feels down.. nowadays.. always.. dah pandai merajuk.. kuat pulak tu.. sikit2 menangis olok2.. even though she is faking it, i will still hug and kiss her.. say all the nice things to pujuk her.. then, if i nangis olok2 pon, she'll come to hug and kiss me.

2.  show that you are happy to meet her

everyday when i sent aysha to her babysitter, she'll cry wanting to follow me to work.. but at the end of the day, i didnt get to pick her up since i get back quite late. so her abi will pick her up and bring her to the playground..

by the time i'm home, either she'll come greet me or just ignore me if she is busy playing.. i will call out for her and give her a kiss then off for a shower and solat..

everytime she comes looking for me i will give her a big smile and open my arms to hug her.

3. observe and acknowledge when she did something good

right now aysha likes to mess her toys but when i told her to "pick it up and put back in the basket". she will obey and start tidying things up. each time she does good deeds i will encourage her and clap my hands and give her a hug and  kiss.

4. listen to her

these recent weeks aysha is very sensitive and will cry easily if she did not get what she wants. so when she starts crying i will ask nicely what is it that she wants. normally i will not understand what she says so i simply ask things like do you want to eat? do you want milk? etc then she will reply nicely too... nakkk~ or taknak

5. spend time doing what she wants

it is not so hard now that she is still 17 months old.. what she wants to do each day is play.. either on her tricycle, or colouring or playing outside in the park.. her abi will bring her outside to play.. hehe but in the house.. i will join her colouring..

oh and she have taken interest in playing skipping rope.. my oh my...

6. show interest in her effort on what she is doing

sometimes when aysha is alone by the corner or sitting down quietly on the floor.. i will be curious and interested to see what she is doing.. normally it is not the nice thing.. like colouring the floor. or tearing up pages off of her books... sometimes she spill her water and plays with it... sigh..

but i will ask her to clean it up after wards.. and she will obey...

such a good girl..


another wedding attended

today our only agenda was to attend my ofismates wedding ceremony. the venue was very near to our house so we went a bit late. however manage to met up with 3 of my other colleagues. the food was nice and even the weather was nice.. in the inside anyway.. outside was very hot. i would like to take this opportunity to wish Fazirah Hanim and Saad congratulations and welcome to the realm of marriage life.


after the taking pictures, i went to speedmart and bought some milk powder for aysha. then head back for more sleep....

for dinner, we went makan2 with aysha's grandad and the whole family.. just at our normal spot.. nothing fancy there.. then head back to my dad's house to lepak2. aysha gets to play with her makcik2


that's all for today... stay tune for more~

23 May 2012

Emergency Announcement!!

*UPDATE - KC dah tukar template.. tu lah.. aritu gatal sangat tangan godek2 html code.. hihi.. so boleh lah sambung segment semula.. yeahuuuu.... meh.. meh join segment KC

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KC baru perasan yang my comment form is not loading.. mane pegi?!!! huwa.... =( buat sementara waktu nih, sape2 nak join segment yang KC nak tu tolong updatekan link post korang kat shoutbox k...

nanti dah ok comment form tu KC roger balik...

22 May 2012

Istiqamah

another good info to share with you all.. also found from facebook..

p/s let me know if you need help translating this to english!

Beating Procrastination

Something i found from the internet that is a good reference to me and hopefully can be a good reference for you as well. sharing is caring.. enjoy

taken from: facebook

21 May 2012

Hilang sijil PMR atau SPM?

last monday, KC temankan my hubby pergi buat salinan SPM yang die tak pernah amik. haha... senang jer nak dapatkan salinan sijil kalau dah hilang.

so we went to putrajaya, look for kompleks kerajaan, parcel E, blok E11. very the easy. the kaunter is just to your right once you enter the main entrance. fill in a form.. and submit the form with a RM10 payment.

if i'm not mistaken you need to fill in below details in the form:
1. your name (of course)
2. IC number
3. your school
4. your no angka giliran ( i think if you don't remember this is also OK)

kalau nak download borang dier dulu pon bleh.. easy peasy..

nak tahu lebih lanjut? sile ke sini.

20 May 2012

tutorial: display html codes in blogspot post

Hi all,

another simple tutorial. if you want to display html codes in your blog post, you can follow the steps below:

1. go to this url: http://centricle.com/tools/html-entities/
2. enter the html codes you want to display
3. click encode
4. it will give you an encoded html codes
5. copy the codes
6. paste it in your blog post

p/s let me know if you got questions. goodluck!

tutorial: add follow & dashboard button in blogspot

Dear all,

since aysha is asleep early tonight, i am thinking of making a simple tutorial on how to add the floating follow button and dashboard as what you can see in my blog.. as you know.. sharing is caring..

please follow the easy steps shown below:

1. login to your blogger account
2. select your blog
3. go to layout
4. then click at "add a gadget"
5. choose html/javascript widget
6. not required to enter the title
7. enter the codes below
<div style="display:scroll; position:fixed; top:0px; right:95px;"><a class="linkopacity" href="http://www.blogger.com/follow-blog.g?blogID=your blog id" target="_blank" rel="nofollow" title="Follow !" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 3em; margin-right: 3em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-A-QHQgH5vBo/TltY1zKMaTI/AAAAAAAABio/a3joiRaQYPk/s1600/followpink.png" /></a> <div style="display:scroll; position:fixed; top:0px; right:2px;"><a class="linkopacity" href="http://blogger.com/home" target="_blank" rel="nofollow" title="Dashboard !" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-CK6_DqntD5Q/TltY0b4Sb_I/AAAAAAAABiY/-QwHYh06_UM/s1600/dashboardpink.png" /></a></div></div> 
8. for your blog id (highlighted in yellow) you can get it at your url link. you can refer to the screenshot below:

9. the url highlighted in green is the follow button image url. you can change it to your own image url.
10. same goes to the url highlighted in blue. that is the dashboard button image url. you can change it here.
11. once done, click at the save button
12. check it out in your blog.. it should be updated to show the buttons on your top right corner.

p/s my button image url is taken from kemetot comel.

19 May 2012

bad.. bad door... =(

my poor baby's toe nail got caught on the door. she likes to open the door roughly and i knew one day it will get caught.. and tonight it did.. she is a really strong girl and only cried for a second and keep on saying "akett.. akett" pointing at her feet.. i know she is in pain because she keep hardening her body to bear with the pain.. i'm so proud of you.. such a big girl now.. if it was me.. i'll cringe and wail in pain!! 


so i just put some gamat oil and massage her feet a bit.. after nenen she is fast asleep!!

Segmen Review blog by HudaHud

while blog walking and inviting bloggers to join my segment here, i found many other segments organized by other blogger which i got interested to join. so this is the segment review blog by HudaHud..

if you are interested, you can click on the banner above for more information.

Segmen : Bloglist Gulahatichabi By Dini


So this is my first time joining a segmen hosted by Dini.. anyone wants to join? head over to Dini's blog for info! 
p/s hopefully I could be one of the 'superb awesome' blogger.. wish me luck!

18 May 2012

Super Parents Convention

I came across and interesting event from iluvislam. is about a super parents convention. i believe it is all about marriage and parenting. lets register and go together for a fun family event!

GANJARAN SEBUAH PENGORBANAN ISTERI DAN IBU *PAHALA WANITA

* MENGANDUNG

Apabila seseorang perempuan mengandung janin dalam rahimnya, maka beristighfarlah malaikat untuknya. Allah s.w.t. mencatatkan baginya setiap hari dengan 1,000 kebajikan dan menghapuskan daripadanya 1,000 kejahatan.

* PAHALA WANITA BERSALIN

Apabila seseorang perempuan mula sakit hendak bersalin, maka Allah s.w.t. mencatatkan baginya pahala orang yang berjihad pada jalan Allah s.w.t.

* KELEBIHAN MELAHIRKAN ANAK

Apabila seseorang perempuan melahirkan anak, keluarlah dia dari dosa-dosa seperti keadaan ibunya melahirkannya.

* KELEBIHAN MEYUSUKAN ANAK

Apabila telah lahir anak lalu disusui, maka bagi ibu itu setiap satu tegukan daripada susunya diberi satu kebajikan.

* PAHALA MEMELIHARA ANAK

Apabila semalaman ibu tidak tidur dan memelihara anaknya yang sakit, maka Allah s.w.t. memberikannya pahala seperti memerdekakan 70 hamba dengan ikhlas untuk membela agama Allah s.w.t.

* GANJARAN MENOLONG SUAMI

Tiap perempuan yang menolong suaminya dalam urusan agama, maka Allah s.w.t. memasukkan dia ke dalam syurga lebih dahulu daripada suaminya.

* GANJARAN WANITA SOLEHAH

Perempuan apabila sembahyang lima waktu, puasa bulan ramadhan, memelihara kehormatannya serta taat akan suaminya, masuklah dia dari pintu syurga mana sahaja yang dikehendaki.

* GANJARAN MENTAATI SUAMI

Wanita yang taat berkhidmat kepada suaminya akan tertutup pintu-pintu neraka dan terbuka pintu-pintu syurga. Masuklah dari mana-mana pintu yang di kehendaki dengan tidak berhisab.

* KELEBIHAN SEORANG IBU

Syurga itu di bawah telapak kaki ibu.

Allahu akbar, itu semua adalah ganjaran oleh Allah s.w.t. bagi mereka yang ikhlas melaksanakannya dengan hati yang terbuka. Sekiranya, seseorang isteri dan ibu itu tahu betapa besarnya ganjaran pahala yang akan diterima kelak, sudah pasti tidak akan ada perbuatan membuang bayi, membunuh bayi dan sebagainya. Anak merupakan saham di alam akhirat kita kelak.

Para suami dan anak-anak, sedar dan fahamilah pengorbanan seorang isteri dan ibu dalam menjalani kehidupan seharian. Sekiranya suami mahu sama-sama ringankan tangan untuk membantu, syukur. Berilah penghargaan dalam bentuk material atau hadiah, itu dikira cukup baik. Paling tidak, penghargaan dalam bentuk kata-kata, sikap dan belaian mesra pun amat tinggi harganya. Mereka ini tidak menuntut bayaran sesen pun dari suami bagi kerja-kerja yang dibuatnya, namun balasan Allah s.w.t. adalah ganjaran yang paling berharga.

Source: facebook

17 May 2012

8 Financial Tips for Women


If you find yourself forgetting or being led astray from your financial goals, keep these wise words in mind to help you get back on track.

1. Think about your (possible) future purchases
What kind of lifestyle do you aspire to lead? If it includes living in your own home, then you might want to look at your earnings to see if you can afford a place later on. Do you want to be free from the stresses of a full-time job? Then consider the type of career, income and environment you picture yourself in, and plan accordingly.

2. Take your plans seriously
Write down clear, specific goals for yourself — and stick to them. Prioritise and make a list so you can follow them through. Ask a trusted to friend to keep you in check.

3. Education is key
And we're not just talking about a college or Masters degree. Learning gives you a better view of the world and equips you with a bit of know-how to make things work. Use those extra classes, your work experience, and advice from peers and mentors as your training ground for better decision-making and calculated judgments.

4. Get paid for what you're worth
What do you contribute to the company that makes you so valuable? Spell this out concisely and logically to your boss during an appraisal or a one-to-one meeting. Your achievements will help you confidently negotiate the raise you deserve.

5. Be independent
Be in charge of your money. Be accountable for any slips (like that designer bag you didn't really need) — but don't be too hard on yourself either. Just make sure they don't happen as often; otherwise you shouldn't be surprised to see your finances dwindling.

6. Seize every opportunity
Do you love to make arts and crafts, or collect vintage fashion? Make any hobby or side job work for you. A chance to earn more money — and have fun while doing it — can be a good thing.

7. Respect money, but do not let it define you
Try not to dwell too much on the size of your bank account. Yes, you want to save for a better future — but maybe it's best not to overdo it. Know your limits (do you live every day as if you're a pauper or an heiress, when you're not?) and pamper yourself from time to time.

8. Know when to ask for help
When in doubt, seek help from a friend or an expert. You'll appreciate their advice.

Have you tried these tips before? What else do financially independent women need to know?

14 May 2012

toothbrush and toddlers



my babysitter told me that she have been teaching aysha to use her toothbrush since she got her front tooth. truthfully, i did not even teach aysha how to use the toothbrush yet because even i myself sometimes skip toothbrushing session... and now most of my teeth have gone bad.

now that aysha is getting new 6 toothbuds coming out. 2 front teeth and 4 back molars. ouch. i have to teach her the toothbrush routine. so i bought some toothbrush for kids no toothpaste yet. i read somewhere that it is not good for kids and over use of toothpaste with flouride is bad for teeth.

aysha like to play with her toothbrush but i'm not sure is she is brushing it correctly..

how to wean toddler from nursing



Aysha was fully breastfed until she is 8 months old.. then i started her on formula.. it was tough finding the right formula that suits her.. i tried wyeth s26 but apparently she is allergic to lactose. meaning.. lactose intolerant. she'll get rashes on her face and phlegm. so i gave her lactose free milk formula.. between mamil LF and dulac LF. it was hard because these milk is very limited and not sold at the local supermarket.. so when she is about 14months old. someone from the supermarket told me that anmum only contains 2% lactose and gave me some trial pack. and aysha can tolerate the lactose in anmum. until recently the price of formula milk rised up and i cannot afford anmum anymore.. so i tried giving her dumex dugro.. i read somewhere that children should tolerate lactose after 1 years of age. so i try giving aysha dugro at 18months and there was no more allergy.. alhamdulillah...

however, she is not fully wean from breastfeeding. she still wants to breastfeed when i am around. especially at night when she wants to sleep. i feel like it is time to wean her completely due to her growing 6 teeth at the same time and it has become very painful to breastfeed her. i am now researching the internet to find the best way to wean her.. 

to those who is reading this post, please share your experience and knowledge on how you wean your babies.. thanks a lot in advance.. i 'll update again once i got more information on this..

06 May 2012

how to handle toddler tantrum

 image from momaroo.com

recently aysha frequently have tantrum fits which i'm not sure how to handle. some time, i just leave her be, sometimes i surrender to her needs, and there was once i raised my voice at her.. mostly due to my lack of patience, not more to her than to my partner, who just doesnt seem to care...

so i started to search online on how to better manage her tantrums.. right now the easiest way not sure whether it is the correct way to handle her tantrums are by distracting her to do something else. most of the time she is ok with it,  meaning, she get distracted and quickly forgets. if that does not work, i simply carry her and brings her somewhere quiet and away from noisy places. however, below are some steps i found from google on how to manage toddler tantrums.

1
Remain calm enough to handle the tantrum properly. The worst thing parents can do is have a temper tantrum over their child's temper tantrum. Children need a calming influence, especially during a tantrum, and if you can’t provide that, you can’t expect them to calm down. Take a few deep breaths and wait at least a few seconds before deciding on a response.

2
Remember that your child's tantrum is NOT necessarily a way to "get his way", but could be the result of frustration, lack of needed attention from you, or even a physical problem, like low blood sugar, pain or digestive problems! The lack of a place to nap is a common cause of tantrums (Ever notice how many kids you see having them around 3 PM in stores! It's NAP TIME, but Mommy would rather shop! It is also the time of afternoon when blood sugar drops after lunch and a small snack is often needed. Schedule activities around your child's needs. Having a set schedule with nap time included is greatly recommended.

3
Offer your child a choice of coping strategies. For example, your son wants ice cream, but it's too close to dinner. Say: "Johnny, you're really getting upset now. Calm down or you'll have to go to your room." You have given him a choice -- either control himself or, if he can't, retreat to a place where he won't influence others. If he makes the right choice (to calm down), remember to compliment him: "You asked for ice cream and I said no. I want to thank you for taking no for an answer." Conversely, have consequences and enforce them if he chooses to get upset. Guide him to his room and firmly insist that he remain there until he calms down, for example. This is easier with a two-year-old than with an eight-year-old, so the younger you begin the learning process the better.

4
Stem your own rising frustration level. Tantrums can raise blood pressure and stress levels in parents as well as children. If you really can’t handle a tantrum, make sure the child will be safe and spend a few moments away from him or her. The time-out has a calming effect for both of you. Get your spouse or other responsible person to look after the child while you calm down. Put your child in his or her room with a gate in front of the door if necessary.

5
Try to determine the cause of the tantrum. Tantrums can be triggered by a number of things, and the cause of the tantrum should help determine your response to it. If a tantrum is caused by hungriness or sleepiness, you should feed the child or allow him or her to take a nap as soon as possible. If the tantrum is triggered by frustration or fear, you need to comfort your child. If the child feels ignored, spend some quality/quantity time with him, playing or reading, etc. If, however, your child is acting up because he or she can’t get his or her way…

6
Do not reward the tantrum. If the parents give in, tantrums become a launching point for the child—a way to deal with the world socially. If you allow yourself to be held hostage by tantrums, your child will continue to use them long past the age when they would otherwise cease. Even if the child is throwing a fit because he hasn’t received enough attention, don’t reward the behavior now. Instead, resolve to make long-term changes to avoid future outbursts. Try not to panic or make concessions, but leave the scene, even if just for a few minutes. Go to the crying room at church—that’s what it's there for, after all—to the car, or even to the restroom to allow your child and you to regain control.

7
Take steps to prevent injury. Some children can become quite animated during a tantrum. If this occurs, remove dangerous objects from the child’s path or steer the child away from danger. Try to avoid restraining a child during a tantrum, but sometimes this is necessary and comforting. Be gentle (do not use excessive force), but hold him or her firmly. Speak reassuringly to the child, especially if the tantrum is the result of disappointment, frustration, or unfamiliar surroundings.

8
Explain to the child that you will talk to him or her when he or she calms down. This will help your child to understand that you are ignoring her because her behavior is unacceptable, not because you don’t care about her. When the child calms down, fulfill your part of the bargain by discussing the tantrum and the child’s concerns.

9
Avoid trying to reason with any child who is in the middle of a full-blown tantrum, especially in a public place. Give him or her time to vent. Instead, give the child phrases to express the emotions that they are experiencing. Say phrases like, "You must be really tired after such a long day," or, "You must feel frustrated that you can't have what you want right now." This not only will help the child verbalize this later, but shows empathy for their feelings without having to give in.

10
Discuss the behavior with your child once the tantrum has ended. While there’s no use trying to reason with a child in the midst of a tantrum, you both can learn a lot by discussing the incident afterwards. Explain that the behavior is unacceptable, but also make sure your child understands that you love him or her regardless. Try to discover the cause of the tantrum if you haven’t already, and take the opportunity to discuss better alternatives with your child.

11
Do not discipline physically eg by smacking your child. This conveys three unhelpful messages:
  1. That you are out of control.
  2. That hitting is an acceptable behavior.
  3. That feelings should be suppressed and not vented (a toddler is expressing feelings in the only way they are able).
     

04 May 2012

a friday away from work

i got food poisoning.. down with diarrhea since yesterday. but somehow today i feel a lot better. thx doc. so while aysha is having fun in her babysitters house. me and hubby went to watch a movie after almost 2 years we did not step into any cinema.. we watch the battleship movie which is great.. the director is the same as transformers so the sound system is really like transformers.
this movie is all about aliensss.. and the navy.. and if i am not mistaken.. it was taken from a game.

battleship movie official site: www.battleshipmovie.com



you can watch the trailer here:


p/s i watched the snow white and the huntsman trailer before the movie starts. now i can't wait to watch another great movie!!!

01 May 2012

Happy labour day

This is me wishing everyone happy labour day today.. whilst i'm currently in the office.. working... sigh~

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